How to Help Your Child Build Confidence
Dr. Angela Seabright
| 3 min read
Children are constantly developing new skills as they age, beginning with crawling and walking to speaking, reading, writing and problem-solving. Building confidence and self-esteem is more complex than other life skills but it is something parents can teach.
In today’s technology-driven world, the self-esteem of children and adolescents is more vulnerable than ever. It’s important for parents and guardians to not only model confidence, but try and instill it in their children.
The negative effects of social media on a child’s self-esteem
Social media isn’t inherently harmful for all kids and teens. While in-person socialization is more beneficial for healthy development, online communication, in moderation, may help adolescents stay connected across long distances, expand their social circles, and find a sense of community.
However, overuse of social media in adolescence is associated with increased risks of:
- Anxiety and depression: Teens who use social media more than three hours a day more than double their risk of experiencing symptoms of anxiety and depression.
- Body image issues: A 2022 survey found 46% of teens ages 13-17 said social media made them feel worse about their bodies. Unrealistic beauty standards amplified by filters and the need for validation through likes and comments, contribute to self-esteem issues, especially among girls.
- Harmful trends: Adolescents are easily influenced by trends and hacks circulating on social media. Influencers do not always have the qualifications and credentials necessary to make health recommendations. Additionally, many influencers make money by advertising products, indicating a widespread ethical issue on social media. Finally, some content may promote risky health behaviors, such as tobacco, alcohol and drug use.
- Cyberbullying: Online bullying can be detrimental to the mental health of adolescents. It is crucial for parents to monitor social media interactions for name-calling, threats, or other forms of harassment.
- Encouraging them to focus and invest time into offline hobbies and goals
- Helping them set limits within social media platforms
- Taking breaks by turning off notifications and removing apps for periods of time
- Unfollowing and muting accounts that stress them out
Other tips to instill confidence in kids and teens
Modeling confidence sets a good example for children. It’s important for them to know that being confident doesn’t mean being perfect. Acknowledging anxiety, insecurities and imperfections teaches children and adolescents that it’s okay to face challenges and manage emotions. Parents who focus on growth, positivity and self-compassion can inspire kids to do the same.
Additionally, fostering a household that allows kids to take age-appropriate risks and make mistakes is essential – it’s how they learn, develop problem-solving skills and build resilience. Focusing on effort and perseverance encourages growth and boosts their confidence.
Finally, parents can set their kids up for success by nurturing their strengths while also giving them opportunities to step outside their comfort zones and try new things. Learning new skills, making new friends and embracing diverse experiences help children grow and thrive.
It’s hard to go wrong for parents who lead with love. Children who feel loved and valued are more likely to develop a strong sense of self-worth.
Angela Seabright is a care management physician at Blue Cross Blue Shield of Michigan. For more parenting tips and information, visit AHealthierMichigan.com.
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